Who am I as a Communicator

The Result
The result of the communication anxiety inventory that I took was 69. The result indicates that “feel uncomfortable in several communication contexts” (Rubin, Palmgreen, & Sypher, 2009). My cousin scored 45, while my friend scored a 60. While questioning them about the result, my cousin said that she has noticed that I blend in at any communication context and I show confidence in what I say. My friend, said that she has noticed me during class presentations that I turn into a different person than usual. I seem to freak out more, not stay focused and think a lot about my presentation. I feel both people have been with me through different settings and have a different idea of who I am with communication anxiety. 

The result of the verbal aggressive scale that I took was 61. The result indicates that I “maintain a good balance between respect and consideration for others’ viewpoints, and the ability to argue fairly by attacking the facts of a position rather than the person holding that position” (Rubin, Palmgreen, & Sypher, 2009). My cousin and my friend both scored a 52 on the test. They both said that I am a very respectful person when it comes to others point of view, and I seldom argue to prove my point. I would voice out what I think about the topic, and tell the other person I respect what they say, but we have different opinion about the topic. 

The result of the listening style profile that I took was 55. The result suggests that I am “empathetic and concerned with the emotions of others” (Rubin, Rubin, Graham, Perse, & Seibold, 2009). My cousin scored a 42 while my friend scored a 35. They both indicate that I am always the person who they come to when they need a person to listen to their problems. They said that when they vent their emotions, I am always listening and engage with their emotion. I give them advice and I make them feel better. 

Who I am?
I am a somewhat outgoing person, but mostly comfortable in settings and with people who I know well. When in a new setting or with new people I tend to keep to myself and only talk to them if they ask me a question or engage in a conversation with me. I am not the type of person who would try and start a conversation with someone I just met, unless I have to. When it comes to talking to a crowd, I feel so much stress and anxiety. Although I practice, prepare myself, and try calming techniques, once I face the crowd even in front of only ten people, I start to stutter and begin reading my presentation instead of connecting with them. When it comes to listening, I am the type of person that would be all ears. I listen to the person talk, then after they talk I try to give advice if needed. If it is a technical conversation, I would listen, and try to converse to the best of my abilities. When a person is talking to me, I make sure my facial expression and my body language is not sending a message through the person talking that I am bored or that I need to go or do not have time for this. I am not an aggressive person. I was raised to respect others even if I do not agree with them. I will sometimes voice out my point, but not to the point where I offend a person and make them feel uncomfortable. 

Reference

Rubin, R. B., Palmgreen, P., & Sypher, H. E. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures: A sourcebook. New York: Routledge.


Rubin, R. B., Rubin, A. M., Graham, E. E., Perse, E. M., & Seibold, D. R. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures II: A sourcebook. New York: Routledge.